My little corner

Jun

Biblical marriage

Well for the last two weeks, the sermon at church has been about marriage and God’s design of marriage. (Sermons available at http://www.midrandchapel.za.org)
I have been an introvert for all my life, a loner. Never had very good interpersonal skills and would never talk to members of the opposite sex. When I started working and going to church regularly I started to develop some interpersonal communication skills, but was never really interested in developing any sort of relationship. I guess I just thought that I was not the marriage type.

I was listening to a John MacArthur sermon and also John Piper sermon over the valentines period. The sermons spoke about how God calls some people to be married and some he calls to be single. We can see this in Matt 19:10, “The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” v11 But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. v12 For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.”

Basically I think what Jesus is saying here is exactly that, some people God calls to be single and some he calls to marry. I always thought that I was the single one, but lately I feel that this is changing. God wanted me to be single up until now but I feel that He is slowly changing this in me.

That is all well and good but at the moment I have that little problem of not being the best at interpersonal communication. Something that God will help me with I know but I just think that I have a long way to go. and it’s a road which I am rather nervous to walk down. I look at the way movies portray relationships and it seems that if a man wants to go out with a woman, it always ends up with them getting into bed together. That to me is not the correct relationship but unfortunately I cannot say I really know exactly what a correct relationship would entail. I also don’t know where to learn about how a relationship works. For an example, there are many questions which a person needs answers to, like how do you know whether you have any feelings for someone and how do you determine their feelings toward you? If you suspect comparable feelings, what is the next step? If you don’t suspect comparable feelings is it better just to leave a friendship as is if you already had a friendship?

These are questions that have started to flow through my mind lately as I start to develop new friendships and meet new people.

Anyway I have been rambling along for a while now, I don’t even really know what I have written, so I had better signoff now. If you are, were, or feel that you might be in a similar situation then drop me a comment and tell me your thoughts. The comments are anonymous so don’t feel shy